Romanticizing the Normal Life

If there's one thrope that I really can't stand - second only to miscommunication - is characters with cool and interesting lives dreaming that they were married with kids and having a 9 to 5 job.

In a sense, I can see where this comes from. Sometimes you need a break. Fighting monsters can sound kind of cool, but sleeping for four hours a night - if even that - and running only on your anxiety and PTSD, certainly does not.

But what's funny is that the one time Sam and Dean were given the opportunity to be just normal everyday dudes, they immediately found each other and went back to monster-hunting. So it's clearly not possible for them to do that.

But here's what I don't understand: why can't they combine the two? Why can't they have a partner who is also hunter? It's kind of like the bisexuality thing. Just because you have to hunt monsters doesn't mean you can't have a family? To this day I haven't heard a good argument about this.

"They want to stop being hunters!"

Yeah, but they can't! Haven't you been watching the show? That's the entire point! They are too good of people to just stop fighting evil. And even when they have been given the opportunity, their instincts brought them back to hunting.

"But all the hunters couples we've seen have died!  They don't want for their partners to die!"

Sure, and what's the alternative? Knowing that the supernatural exists and not being able to fight it at all? Not knowing about it and not having any way to defend yourself when it targets you? Having to constantly worry about your partner and possible kids, instead of knowing they can fend for themselves? Having to keep secrets from them?

I think my perfect Supernatural ending would be Sam and Dean settling down with Cas and whoever Sam ends up with someone, and heading off to their next adventure.

Crobby and Bicuriosity

Supernatural has a long and unfortunate history of queerbaiting fans and sadly, I think Crobby is part of that. As much as I enjoyed  shipping it for three hot seconds, I have to admit that straight writers using queer sexuality as a "joke" to say that they are not homophobic, is a trope I didn't used to mind, but I have grown to hate more and more over time

For one thing, it's still homophobic. Not overtly so, but the homophobia stems from the fact that's only okay to use gayness as a joke, while not actually creating any representation for queer folks. It's the "this character who is not gay, kisses a guy, haha! but he is t totally not gay, you guys!" thing that was quite popular during the 11th Doctor's run. Secondly, it's biphobic, because it erases bi/pan sexuality. We get it, he likes women! But did you know... liking women doesn't necessarily mean one can't also like men?

Anyway, back to Supernatural. As always, what's not canon is way more interesting than what is.

Bobby had to kiss Crowley. He pretended he was offended, but seemed to have enjoyed it and even used tongue.

So what does that make Bobby? Well, identity politics are a complicated subject, but I will say as much: he does at least seem bicurious.

See, men and women (and non binary people) experience biphobia in different ways. While bisexual women are often fetishized by straight media and told they will end up with men, bisexual men are told they are lesser men, and often have their attraction to women erased. Because everyone who can possibly be attracted to men, can only be attracted to men. But the reality of the situation is that bisexuals vastly outnumber gay people, and if all bisexuals came out, we'd outnumber straight people too.

This of course, opens a lot of possibilities, Since Bobby was John's friend did he maybe have some feelings for John? Does he think of Dean and Sam as his sons, because in a sense they are? Why does he only feel comfortable expressing is bi-curiosity in a situation where he is "forced" into it? Does Bobby have some submissive tendencies as well as bisexual ones? Does the fact that Crowley is a demon say something about him being able to bring Bobby's bicuriosity? Are the writers implying queer sexuality is evil? Doesn't this contradict how disasterous all hetrosexual relationships in Supernatural are?

All of these are interesting questions that we'll probably never get an answer to, because this Supernatural. The straighest-bi show ever. Also, I seem to be one of three people who care about this ship. Oh, well.